Moving Beyond the Myth of Perfect Innocence Right, let’s talk about something that doesn’t seem to get talked about nearly enough. Autistic people need accountability too. And before somebody starts clutching their pearls, I’m not talking about abusing children or punishing somebody for being autistic. I’m talking about parents recognising that their autistic child is…
I am fairly certain I could start a business whilst standing in a supermarket queue. All it takes is somebody complaining about a problem and my brain is off. Before I’ve even reached the checkout, I’ve identified a gap in the market, chosen a business name, designed a logo and worked out how much money…
Over the years, I have noticed something that keeps appearing in neurodivergent circles, and if I am honest, it has left me scratching my head more than once. Every now and then I come across somebody who seems permanently angry. Not somebody having a bad day. Not somebody going through a difficult period. I mean…
More people than ever are embracing the label ADHD. They say it out loud, own it and even joke about it. Social media is full of people laughing about forgotten appointments, abandoned hobbies and walking into a room only to forget why they went there in the first place. But autism? That’s a completely different…
The Woman He Fell In Love With Is Still There There is a very uncomfortable conversation that more couples need to have. Not every affair begins because somebody “stopped loving” their partner. Sometimes it begins because one partner stopped understanding them. Or worse still, stopped trying. There seems to be a recurring pattern happening quietly…
From someone currently wondering how “spontaneous passion” became “absolutely not, I’ve just cleaned the kitchen.” There was once a time when sex felt exciting, playful, connecting, and occasionally athletic enough to qualify for a Fitbit achievement. Fast forward to midlife, and many women are now staring into the hormonal abyss wondering why the very things…
The Moment It Clicks At some point, the internet decided we are no longer simply tired. We are now “rotting”, preferably in bed, and ideally with a phone in hand. Charming, isn’t it. The first time I heard the phrase, I pictured something vaguely medical. Perhaps a Victorian illness requiring smelling salts and dramatic fainting….
There was a time I dated someone who ticked every red flag box. He owned a snake, which already felt like the universe issuing a polite warning. He believed hay fever was a government scam and quoted controversial “thinkers” like sacred scripture. Looking back, it all seems painfully obvious now. At the time though, I…
If you’re an ND man, and by ND I mean neurodivergent, and you’ve been living with constant, bone-deep anxiety for years, there’s a good chance it isn’t “just anxiety.” There’s a very real possibility it’s ADHD in disguise. Not the hyperactive schoolboy version you’ve seen on TV. Not the “can’t sit still” stereotype. This is…
ADHD isn’t a moral failing. But it’s not a free pass either. Somewhere along the self-awareness path, we took a wrong turn. Instead of learning how to manage ADHD, many of us have started hiding behind it, blaming every missed deadline, flaked plan, or emotional outburst on our neurodivergence like it’s an invisibility cloak for…
