Why Does Sex Suddenly Feel Irritating Instead of Exciting?
From someone currently wondering how “spontaneous passion” became “absolutely not,…
Why Does Sex Suddenly Feel Irritating Instead of Exciting?
From someone currently wondering how “spontaneous passion” became “absolutely not, I’ve just cleaned the kitchen.” There was once a time when sex felt exciting, playful, connecting, and occasionally athletic enough to qualify for a Fitbit achievement. Fast forward to midlife, and many women are now staring into the hormonal abyss wondering why the very things…
The Truth About ADHD and Poor Decision Making
There was a time I dated someone who ticked every red flag box. He owned a snake, which already felt like the universe issuing a polite warning. He believed hay fever was a government scam and quoted controversial “thinkers” like sacred scripture. Looking back, it all seems painfully obvious now. At the time though, I…
The Simplistic Way To Attract Money Without Chasing
If you’re neurodivergent, you’ve probably spent a good portion of your life trying to “run the race” the way neurotypicals do. You’ve been told to grind harder, network more aggressively, and stay on that 9-to-5 treadmill until your legs give out. But for us, “the chase” isn’t just exhausting, it’s biologically expensive. When we chase…
Auditory Processing Disorder: When Hearing Isn’t the Problem
You can hear perfectly well. Yet somehow, nothing makes sense. Words arrive like badly tuned radio signals, half formed and oddly timed. You nod. You smile. You say “sorry, what?” for the third time in one minute. Eventually, people stop repeating themselves. Eventually, they think you are rude. Or slow. Or not paying attention. This…
Learning to Let Go (When You Care Too Much)
Let it go, they say.Yeah, easier said than done, I say. When someone pokes the bear in you, there’s a moment you try to stay calm, to breathe, to remember your affirmations and resist the urge to write a strongly worded text. You tell yourself you can handle it. But if that same person keeps…
Giving Up Alcohol and Weed With an ADHD Brain
You’ve decided it’s time to stop drinking, or at least stop leaning on weed to soften the edges. You’ve got willpower, a plan, maybe even a shiny new journal with motivational quotes. But somehow, two days later, you’re staring at an empty wine bottle or wondering why there’s another half-smoked joint in your ashtray. It’s…
Should You Disclose Your Neurodivergence at Work?
Back in the 80s and 90s, there was an unspoken rule at work: the less people knew about you, the better. Your health, your personal struggles, your quirks? Best left off the record. Fast-forward to 2025, and you’d think the world would have evolved. We’ve got hashtags shouting about neurodiversity inclusion, rainbow-coloured HR brochures promising…
Why You Seem Autistic But Test Negative
Ever met someone and thought, “Oh, they’re definitely autistic”, only for their professional assessment to come back with a polite-but-firm “Nope”? It happens far more often than you’d think, and the reasons are fascinating, frustrating, and occasionally absurd. Let’s talk masking, ADHD imposters, and the curious world of the “almost-autistic”. The Diagnostic Plot Twist Autism…
The Hidden ADHD Anxiety Most Men Don’t See
If you’re an ND man, and by ND I mean neurodivergent, and you’ve been living with constant, bone-deep anxiety for years, there’s a good chance it isn’t “just anxiety.” There’s a very real possibility it’s ADHD in disguise. Not the hyperactive schoolboy version you’ve seen on TV. Not the “can’t sit still” stereotype. This is…
