Asperger’s vs Autism: What Are We Really Arguing About?
I’ve been watching the Asperger’s versus autism debate for a…
Asperger’s vs Autism: What Are We Really Arguing About?
I’ve been watching the Asperger’s versus autism debate for a while now and I can’t help feeling that people are arguing about the wrong thing. Officially, Asperger’s was folded into Autism Spectrum Disorder over a decade ago. The science has largely moved on. The diagnostic manuals have moved on. Yet some people are still passionately…
Why Smart Men Sometimes Look Clueless
Every woman knows the feeling. The washing basket is overflowing. The bin is one yoghurt pot away from becoming a health hazard. There are three empty milk cartons in the fridge. Yet somehow your husband walks straight past every single one as though they are completely invisible. By this point, you have convinced yourself he…
ADHD Anger: The Damage Nobody Talks About
Over the years, I have noticed something that keeps appearing in neurodivergent circles, and if I am honest, it has left me scratching my head more than once. Every now and then I come across somebody who seems permanently angry. Not somebody having a bad day. Not somebody going through a difficult period. I mean…
Autism Didn’t Exist In My Day
One of my favourite conversations is when somebody confidently announces that autism didn’t exist when they were young. Five minutes later they’re explaining how they’ve eaten the same breakfast since 1978, refuse to answer unexpected phone calls, know every railway route in Britain, and become visibly distressed if somebody moves their favourite chair. At which…
Perimenopause Brain Fog: The Symptom That Terrified Me Most
There are plenty of perimenopause symptoms that nobody warns you about. The random rage. The anxiety. The insomnia. The feeling that your body has suddenly decided to freelance without consulting you first. But none of them frightened me quite as much as brain fog. Before perimenopause, I prided myself on having a sharp memory. I…
Why Do I Get Bad Vibes From Some People?
Have you ever met someone who technically hasn’t done anything wrong, yet your brain files them under “absolutely not” within three minutes? No evidence. No witness statements. No CCTV footage. Just a vibe. An irritating little feeling that follows you around like a fly at a barbecue. Now before anyone starts accusing me of thinking…
Autistic You Thought! Then The Odd Mind-Blowing Results
You spend years feeling different. Not quirky-different in a “collects novelty mugs” sort of way. Proper different. The kind where social situations feel faintly rehearsed, loud environments feel like psychological warfare, and other people seem to have received an invisible instruction manual you somehow missed. Then one day, everything clicks. You discover autism content online….
Men Surprisingly Diagnosed ADHD/Autistic Later in Life
The Diagnosis You Never Saw Coming Imagine this. You’re 38. Your second marriage has just limped over the finish line. You’ve had more career changes than proper holidays, and your Saturday nights now involve doom-scrolling with a drink strong enough to remove varnish. Then one Tuesday afternoon, a doctor drops a bombshell. ADHD. Autism. Dyslexia….
Neurodivergent People Trigger Each Other: Why?
I was having a really fascinating conversation recently with someone who also had autism. At one point, they admitted something that felt almost socially illegal to say out loud. They confessed that sometimes they struggle more with certain neurodivergent people than neurotypical ones. Not because they lacked compassion.Not because they thought they were “better”.But because…
Rare Menopause Symptoms Through an ADHD Lens
If you’ve been following my recent explorations into life with ADHD, you’ll know I’m endlessly fascinated by the strange crossroads where hormones and neurochemistry collide. Perimenopause, however, doesn’t politely arrive with a leaflet and a herbal tea. It storms in like an exhausted woman carrying six shopping bags, forgetting where she parked the car, while…
