What Debbie Did (and Why It Mattered) Once upon a time, we had to work for our visual titillation. In my day, it was Debbie Does Dallas on a scratchy VHS, hidden in someone’s dad’s sock drawer. There was build-up, grainy quality, and a real sense of mystery. Fast forward to today, and porn is…
The Woman He Fell In Love With Is Still There There is a very uncomfortable conversation that more couples need to have. Not every affair begins because somebody “stopped loving” their partner. Sometimes it begins because one partner stopped understanding them. Or worse still, stopped trying. There seems to be a recurring pattern happening quietly…
From someone currently wondering how “spontaneous passion” became “absolutely not, I’ve just cleaned the kitchen.” There was once a time when sex felt exciting, playful, connecting, and occasionally athletic enough to qualify for a Fitbit achievement. Fast forward to midlife, and many women are now staring into the hormonal abyss wondering why the very things…
You can hear perfectly well. Yet somehow, nothing makes sense. Words arrive like badly tuned radio signals, half formed and oddly timed. You nod. You smile. You say “sorry, what?” for the third time in one minute. Eventually, people stop repeating themselves. Eventually, they think you are rude. Or slow. Or not paying attention. This…
Let it go, they say.Yeah, easier said than done, I say. When someone pokes the bear in you, there’s a moment you try to stay calm, to breathe, to remember your affirmations and resist the urge to write a strongly worded text. You tell yourself you can handle it. But if that same person keeps…
If you’re an ND man, and by ND I mean neurodivergent, and you’ve been living with constant, bone-deep anxiety for years, there’s a good chance it isn’t “just anxiety.” There’s a very real possibility it’s ADHD in disguise. Not the hyperactive schoolboy version you’ve seen on TV. Not the “can’t sit still” stereotype. This is…
Some people can let things roll off their back like water on a duck. Others, like me – are more like a sponge in a puddle. If you so much as flick a comment in our direction, we’ll soak it up, carry it around, and possibly replay it in our heads during a 2 am…
Let’s face it. The language around autism and neurodivergence is moving faster than a toddler after sugar. One minute you’re nodding along to someone describing their “high-functioning Asperger’s,” and the next, you’ve learned that term went out of fashion quicker than skinny jeans at a Gen Z picnic. But here’s the good news: all these…
ADHD isn’t a moral failing. But it’s not a free pass either. Somewhere along the self-awareness path, we took a wrong turn. Instead of learning how to manage ADHD, many of us have started hiding behind it, blaming every missed deadline, flaked plan, or emotional outburst on our neurodivergence like it’s an invisibility cloak for…
Let’s be honest. If you’ve ever been caught doing something mortifyingly awkward, like laughing at a funeral or emailing your boss the wrong attachment, there’s a tiny part of you that wishes you could say, “Oh, sorry, I’m neurodivergent.” But when exactly does a diagnosis help explain behaviour, and when does it become an escape…
