Let it go, they say.Yeah, easier said than done, I say. When someone pokes the bear in you, there’s a moment you try to stay calm, to breathe, to remember your affirmations and resist the urge to write a strongly worded text. You tell yourself you can handle it. But if that same person keeps…
If you’re an ND man, and by ND I mean neurodivergent, and you’ve been living with constant, bone-deep anxiety for years, there’s a good chance it isn’t “just anxiety.” There’s a very real possibility it’s ADHD in disguise. Not the hyperactive schoolboy version you’ve seen on TV. Not the “can’t sit still” stereotype. This is…
The Diagnosis You Didn’t See Coming Imagine this. You’re 38, your second marriage has just limped over the finish line, you’ve got more career changes than you have socks, and your Saturday nights now look suspiciously like scrolling on your phone with a glass of something strong. Then one Tuesday afternoon, a doctor drops a…
Some people can let things roll off their back like water on a duck. Others, like me – are more like a sponge in a puddle. If you so much as flick a comment in our direction, we’ll soak it up, carry it around, and possibly replay it in our heads during a 2 am…
Let’s face it. The language around autism and neurodivergence is moving faster than a toddler after sugar. One minute you’re nodding along to someone describing their “high-functioning Asperger’s,” and the next, you’ve learned that term went out of fashion quicker than skinny jeans at a Gen Z picnic. But here’s the good news: all these…
ADHD isn’t a moral failing. But it’s not a free pass either. Somewhere along the self-awareness path, we took a wrong turn. Instead of learning how to manage ADHD, many of us have started hiding behind it, blaming every missed deadline, flaked plan, or emotional outburst on our neurodivergence like it’s an invisibility cloak for…
Let’s be honest. If you’ve ever been caught doing something mortifyingly awkward, like laughing at a funeral or emailing your boss the wrong attachment, there’s a tiny part of you that wishes you could say, “Oh, sorry, I’m neurodivergent.” But when exactly does a diagnosis help explain behaviour, and when does it become an escape…
(Even When We Should Know Better) Engaging with one-track minds, emotional steamrollers and the occasional know-it-all We’ve read the books. We’ve watched the TikToks. We’ve even shared the memes about ADHD with our mates over flat whites. So why, in the name of all that is caffeinated, do we still get so triggered by our…
Ever wondered why your neurodivergent partner just… sits there while you’re crying in the kitchen? Not a hug. Not a tissue. Not even a “Do you want a cuppa?” It’s not heartlessness. It’s not apathy. It’s brain wires doing the electric slide in a house with no lights on. Welcome to the often misunderstood world…
Let’s be real, no one ever sits you down after a neurodivergent diagnosis and says, “By the way, your relationship with sex might get weird.” Whether it’s hypersexuality, hyposexuality, or a confusing cocktail of both, sexuality and ND wiring can be a messy mix. And to make it even murkier? People love to throw labels…
