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The Mesij

Real Talk for Neurodivergent Life

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The Mesij Founder

Simone Wolda

My Story

The Mesij began as a quiet rebellion. About five years ago, I grew tired of the same recycled advice, carbon-copy blogs, and cookie-cutter voices. Everywhere I looked, it was déjà vu in blog form, predictable topics, polished personas, and a glaring lack of nuance or diversity. I wanted more. So I created it.

The Mesij (a phonetic wink to “message”) was born from a stubborn desire to say what others won’t, explore what others skip, and serve the curious misfits of the internet who are hungry for something real.

Here, you’ll find the risqué, the overlooked, the wildly useful, and the oddly satisfying, all in one place. Whether it's practical wisdom, uncomfortable truths, or just a brilliantly twisted take on life, this is a space for those who think deeply, feel loudly, and never quite fit the mould.

I write like I talk: candid, unfiltered, and with 32 tabs open in my brain.
I’m raising neurodivergent kids while unmasking decades of my own.
I believe emotional honesty is a superpower, not a flaw.
I don’t do toxic positivity, nor do I rise at 5am unless legally required.

The Mesij is for those who feel too weird for the world, but far too wise to shrink for it.

Brain Fog & Burnout

Brain Fog & Burnout
Burnout Isn’t a Badge of Honour
Brain Fog & Burnout
Hyperfocus: The Gift You Keep Calling a Problem
Brain Fog & Burnout
Brain Fog Isn’t Laziness
Brain Fog & Burnout
The Truth About The Horror Of Making Bad Choices

Spiritual Sanity

Spiritual Sanity
Grandma’s Fortune Teller Was Onto Something
Spiritual Sanity
Tarot Isn’t the Devil’s Work nor Gospel
Spiritual Sanity
Are You A Physical Empath?
Spiritual Sanity
Chasing Money Vs. Attracting Money

Real Talk for Men

Real Talk for Men
The Hidden ADHD Anxiety Most Men Don’t See
Real Talk for Men
Late Diagnosis in Men: The Midlife Plot Twist
Real Talk for Men
The Conversation about Understanding Andropause
Real Talk for Men
Supplements Every Man Needs (But Likely Skipping)
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Tag: Productive Without Pressure

Approaches to work and creativity that honour your limits without shaming your pace.

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  • Neurodivergent Living

Giving Up Alcohol and Weed With an ADHD Brain

The Mesij3 weeks ago1811 mins

You’ve decided it’s time to stop drinking, or at least stop leaning on weed to soften the edges. You’ve got willpower, a plan, maybe even a shiny new journal with motivational quotes. But somehow, two days later, you’re staring at an empty wine bottle or wondering why there’s another half-smoked joint in your ashtray. It’s…

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  • Neurodivergent Living

Seven Types of ADD? Not found in most books

The Mesij2 months ago2 months ago013 mins

You know that moment when you’re minding your business, scrolling through the internet, and then a post pops up that makes you freeze mid-scroll, mid-toast, and possibly mid-existential crisis? That was me this week. Turns out, there’s not just one type of ADD. Not even two. There are seven. Yes, seven types of attention deficit…

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  • Relationships & Roles

Real Talk: ADHD and Taking Responsibility

The Mesij2 months ago017 mins

ADHD isn’t a moral failing. But it’s not a free pass either. Somewhere along the self-awareness path, we took a wrong turn. Instead of learning how to manage ADHD, many of us have started hiding behind it, blaming every missed deadline, flaked plan, or emotional outburst on our neurodivergence like it’s an invisibility cloak for…

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  • Brain Fog & Burnout

Burnout Isn’t a Badge of Honour

The Mesij3 months ago3 months ago011 mins

Hustle Harder? I’d Rather Nap, Thanks. Everywhere you turn, someone’s preaching the gospel of the grind. From Instagram reels to overpriced hardbacks by men named Chad, we’re told success only comes to those who sacrifice sleep, sanity and probably their spinal discs. Apparently, if you’re not running on three hours of kip and black coffee,…

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  • Brain Fog & Burnout

Hyperfocus: The Gift You Keep Calling a Problem

The Mesij3 months ago3 months ago111 mins

not just a fancy word for cramming You know that thing where someone becomes obsessed, can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t shut up about it? That’s not a phase. That’s hyperfocus. And it’s not some flaky, all-or-nothing party trick. It’s one of the most misunderstood and misused aspects of the neurodivergent brain. I’ve had a good…

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  • Neurodivergent Living

10 ND-Friendly AI Therapy & Support Apps

The Mesij4 months ago4 months ago03 mins

For many neurodivergent folks, traditional therapy isn’t always the right fit. Long waitlists, awkward phone calls, and the fear of being misunderstood can make support feel miles away. That’s where AI therapy tools come in. Available anytime, they offer low-pressure, stigma-free space to explore your thoughts. Whether you need help untangling anxious spirals, tracking moods,…

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  • Neurodivergent Living

Neurodivergent Life Admin That Actually Works

The Mesij4 months ago3 months ago06 mins

I’m Not Disorganised, My Brain’s Just Full What Is Life Admin and Why Does It Break Our Brains? Life admin, the boring but necessary tasks that keep us functioning: bills, forms, appointments, cleaning, emails, laundry, birthday cards. For the neurotypical brain, it’s a mild inconvenience. For the neurodivergent brain, it can feel like drowning in…

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  • Work & Business

So You Want to Be an Entrepreneur? Hmm

The Mesij4 months ago4 months ago09 mins

People love to romanticise entrepreneurship like it’s a scented candle: light it up, breathe in the success, and boom, you’re rich, tanned, and sipping something expensive in Bali. Lovely image, but wildly inaccurate. Let me tell you the truth, from someone who’s been doing this dance for years—I’m talking about the cha-cha, the hustle, the…

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  • Work & Business

Great LinkedIn Lies And Hustle Highs

The Mesij5 months ago4 months ago17 mins

Let’s be honest, shall we? LinkedIn has turned into the office kitchen of the internet, a place where everyone stands around pretending they’re “just making a cup of tea” when really they’re showing off their new reusable mug that says “CEO of Mindset” while loudly quoting Simon Sinek like it’s gospel. You can’t scroll two…

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  • Spiritual Sanity

Chasing Money Vs. Attracting Money

The Mesij5 months ago4 months ago29 mins

  Money is a reward for giving out to society – Ken Honda Ah, the eternal dance with money—some chase it relentlessly, while others seem to attract it as effortlessly as bees to honey. But what’s the difference, really? And more importantly, how should you approach it? Let’s look at this shall we? The Great…

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  • Foundations & Reflections
  • Little Neuro Souls
  • Neurodivergent Living
  • Real Talk for Men
  • Relationships & Roles
  • Sex & Intimacy
  • Spiritual Sanity
  • Work & Business

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