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The Mesij

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The Mesij Founder

Simone Wolda

My Story

The Mesij began as a quiet rebellion. About five years ago, I grew tired of the same recycled advice, carbon-copy blogs, and cookie-cutter voices. Everywhere I looked, it was déjà vu in blog form, predictable topics, polished personas, and a glaring lack of nuance or diversity. I wanted more. So I created it.

The Mesij (a phonetic wink to “message”) was born from a stubborn desire to say what others won’t, explore what others skip, and serve the curious misfits of the internet who are hungry for something real.

Here, you’ll find the risqué, the overlooked, the wildly useful, and the oddly satisfying, all in one place. Whether it's practical wisdom, uncomfortable truths, or just a brilliantly twisted take on life, this is a space for those who think deeply, feel loudly, and never quite fit the mould.

I write like I talk: candid, unfiltered, and with 32 tabs open in my brain.
I’m raising neurodivergent kids while unmasking decades of my own.
I believe emotional honesty is a superpower, not a flaw.
I don’t do toxic positivity, nor do I rise at 5am unless legally required.

The Mesij is for those who feel too weird for the world, but far too wise to shrink for it.

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Hyperfocus: The Gift You Keep Calling a Problem
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Brain Fog Isn’t Laziness
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Spiritual Sanity

Spiritual Sanity
Grandma’s Fortune Teller Was Onto Something
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Tarot Isn’t the Devil’s Work nor Gospel
Spiritual Sanity
Are You A Physical Empath?
Spiritual Sanity
Chasing Money Vs. Attracting Money

Real Talk for Men

Real Talk for Men
The Conversation about Understanding Andropause
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Supplements Every Man Needs (But Likely Skipping)
Real Talk for Men
Is Porn Making You Boring?
Real Talk for Men
Postnatal Depression In Men
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All about career, freelancing, entrepreneurship and workplace dynamics for the neurodivergent adult.

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  • Work & Business

Autism or Alibi? Late Diagnosis Meets Years of Misconduct

The Mesij7 days ago6 days ago09 mins

Let’s be honest. If you’ve ever been caught doing something mortifyingly awkward, like laughing at a funeral or emailing your boss the wrong attachment, there’s a tiny part of you that wishes you could say, “Oh, sorry, I’m neurodivergent.” But when exactly does a diagnosis help explain behaviour, and when does it become an escape…

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  • Brain Fog & Burnout

Burnout Isn’t a Badge of Honour

The Mesij3 weeks ago3 weeks ago011 mins

Hustle Harder? I’d Rather Nap, Thanks. Everywhere you turn, someone’s preaching the gospel of the grind. From Instagram reels to overpriced hardbacks by men named Chad, we’re told success only comes to those who sacrifice sleep, sanity and probably their spinal discs. Apparently, if you’re not running on three hours of kip and black coffee,…

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  • Brain Fog & Burnout

Hyperfocus: The Gift You Keep Calling a Problem

The Mesij1 month ago4 weeks ago111 mins

not just a fancy word for cramming You know that thing where someone becomes obsessed, can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t shut up about it? That’s not a phase. That’s hyperfocus. And it’s not some flaky, all-or-nothing party trick. It’s one of the most misunderstood and misused aspects of the neurodivergent brain. I’ve had a good…

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  • Neurodivergent Living

Neurodivergent Life Admin That Actually Works

The Mesij2 months ago2 months ago06 mins

I’m Not Disorganised, My Brain’s Just Full What Is Life Admin and Why Does It Break Our Brains? Life admin, the boring but necessary tasks that keep us functioning: bills, forms, appointments, cleaning, emails, laundry, birthday cards. For the neurotypical brain, it’s a mild inconvenience. For the neurodivergent brain, it can feel like drowning in…

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  • Work & Business

So You Want to Be an Entrepreneur? Hmm

The Mesij3 months ago2 months ago09 mins

People love to romanticise entrepreneurship like it’s a scented candle: light it up, breathe in the success, and boom, you’re rich, tanned, and sipping something expensive in Bali. Lovely image, but wildly inaccurate. Let me tell you the truth, from someone who’s been doing this dance for years—I’m talking about the cha-cha, the hustle, the…

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  • Neurodivergent Living

Semantic Abuse – The Wordplay Weapon

The Mesij3 months ago2 months ago15 mins

What is Semantic Abuse? Semantic abuse is like verbal origami, someone folds your words until they resemble something you never said. It’s a subtle manipulation tactic where meanings are twisted, your statements are rephrased inaccurately, and conversations become a game of distorted definitions. Unlike shouting matches, this happens quietly, in plain English, which makes it…

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  • Work & Business

The Perceived Scam Surrounding Network Marketing

The Mesij3 months ago2 months ago011 mins

 What is Network Marketing? Alright folks, let’s chat about something that has the potential to shake up your world in a rather exciting way—network marketing! Think of it as a bit like the neighbourhood book club but with a fabulous twist. Instead of just gabbing on about the latest bestseller, you’re sharing products you truly…

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  • Work & Business

The Reality Of Losing Your Job Later In Life

The Mesij3 months ago2 months ago19 mins

I remember losing my job the way you remember your first heartbreak — with a sharp, involuntary wince and a quiet, lingering ache that sneaks up when you least expect it. One minute I was someone with a nameplate on an office door, a pension plan, and a polite nod from the barista who knew…

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  • Little Neuro Souls
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  • Spiritual Sanity
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