Reflections, identity shifts, and practical tips for adults who discovered their neurodivergence later in life.
Ever met someone and thought, “Oh, they’re definitely autistic”, only for their professional assessment to come back with a polite-but-firm “Nope”? It happens far more often than you’d think, and the reasons are fascinating, frustrating, and occasionally absurd. Let’s talk masking, ADHD imposters, and the curious world of the “almost-autistic”. The Diagnostic Plot Twist Autism…
If you’re an ND man, and by ND I mean neurodivergent, and you’ve been living with constant, bone-deep anxiety for years, there’s a good chance it isn’t “just anxiety.” There’s a very real possibility it’s ADHD in disguise. Not the hyperactive schoolboy version you’ve seen on TV. Not the “can’t sit still” stereotype. This is…
The Diagnosis You Didn’t See Coming Imagine this. You’re 38, your second marriage has just limped over the finish line, you’ve got more career changes than you have socks, and your Saturday nights now look suspiciously like scrolling on your phone with a glass of something strong. Then one Tuesday afternoon, a doctor drops a…
Some people can let things roll off their back like water on a duck. Others, like me – are more like a sponge in a puddle. If you so much as flick a comment in our direction, we’ll soak it up, carry it around, and possibly replay it in our heads during a 2 am…
We’ve all had that moment: you walk into a room and forget why you went in. You can’t concentrate, you interrupt conversations, your brain feels like a browser with 83 tabs open and one playing music, you just can’t find it. But what if it’s not ADHD? Turns out, several medical conditions can look suspiciously…
Let’s face it. The language around autism and neurodivergence is moving faster than a toddler after sugar. One minute you’re nodding along to someone describing their “high-functioning Asperger’s,” and the next, you’ve learned that term went out of fashion quicker than skinny jeans at a Gen Z picnic. But here’s the good news: all these…
Let’s be honest. If you’ve ever been caught doing something mortifyingly awkward, like laughing at a funeral or emailing your boss the wrong attachment, there’s a tiny part of you that wishes you could say, “Oh, sorry, I’m neurodivergent.” But when exactly does a diagnosis help explain behaviour, and when does it become an escape…
It’s Not Just a Kid Thing: Adults Stim Too (We’re Just Sneakier About It) There’s a funny thing that happens when you grow up with an invisible neurological difference. You either get really good at hiding it… or really good at apologising for it. And when it comes to stimming, those self-stimulatory behaviours that help…
What Does Epilepsy Have to Do with Neurodivergence? Before we get stuck into the grief, rage and oddly satisfying relief that comes with a late diagnosis, let’s clear something up: yes, epilepsy is a neurodivergent condition. It’s not just about seizures or flashing lights in films (although, yes, those can be dangerous triggers). Epilepsy is…
Introduction Ever had to physically clamp your hand over your mouth to stop the words from tumbling out? Welcome to the inner circus of the neurodivergent brain, where thoughts gallop, opinions leap, and silence feels like betrayal. I get it. I’m that woman. I’ve sat in meetings, family dinners, and WhatsApp groups, desperate to throw…
