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The Mesij

Real Talk for Neurodivergent Life

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The Mesij Founder

Simone Wolda

My Story

The Mesij began as a quiet rebellion. About five years ago, I grew tired of the same recycled advice, carbon-copy blogs, and cookie-cutter voices. Everywhere I looked, it was déjà vu in blog form, predictable topics, polished personas, and a glaring lack of nuance or diversity. I wanted more. So I created it.

The Mesij (a phonetic wink to “message”) was born from a stubborn desire to say what others won’t, explore what others skip, and serve the curious misfits of the internet who are hungry for something real.

Here, you’ll find the risqué, the overlooked, the wildly useful, and the oddly satisfying, all in one place. Whether it's practical wisdom, uncomfortable truths, or just a brilliantly twisted take on life, this is a space for those who think deeply, feel loudly, and never quite fit the mould.

I write like I talk: candid, unfiltered, and with 32 tabs open in my brain.
I’m raising neurodivergent kids while unmasking decades of my own.
I believe emotional honesty is a superpower, not a flaw.
I don’t do toxic positivity, nor do I rise at 5am unless legally required.

The Mesij is for those who feel too weird for the world, but far too wise to shrink for it.

Brain Fog & Burnout

Brain Fog & Burnout
Burnout Isn’t a Badge of Honour
Brain Fog & Burnout
Hyperfocus: The Gift You Keep Calling a Problem
Brain Fog & Burnout
Brain Fog Isn’t Laziness
Brain Fog & Burnout
The Truth About The Horror Of Making Bad Choices

Spiritual Sanity

Spiritual Sanity
Grandma’s Fortune Teller Was Onto Something
Spiritual Sanity
Tarot Isn’t the Devil’s Work nor Gospel
Spiritual Sanity
Are You A Physical Empath?
Spiritual Sanity
Chasing Money Vs. Attracting Money

Real Talk for Men

Real Talk for Men
The Hidden ADHD Anxiety Most Men Don’t See
Real Talk for Men
Late Diagnosis in Men: The Midlife Plot Twist
Real Talk for Men
The Conversation about Understanding Andropause
Real Talk for Men
Supplements Every Man Needs (But Likely Skipping)
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  • Spiritual Sanity

Tarot Isn’t the Devil’s Work nor Gospel

The Mesij6 months ago6 months ago09 mins

Let’s talk Tarot, yes, those little cards some folks clutch like rosary beads, while others recoil like you’ve summoned a demon just for mentioning them. Me? I’ve been dabbling for a decade or so. Ten years might not sound like a lifetime, but I’ve seen enough to know this: Tarot, like anything else, is a…

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  • Work & Business

So You Want to Be an Entrepreneur? Hmm

The Mesij6 months ago6 months ago09 mins

People love to romanticise entrepreneurship like it’s a scented candle: light it up, breathe in the success, and boom, you’re rich, tanned, and sipping something expensive in Bali. Lovely image, but wildly inaccurate. Let me tell you the truth, from someone who’s been doing this dance for years—I’m talking about the cha-cha, the hustle, the…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Why can’t black people swim

The Mesij6 months ago6 months ago011 mins

Now, I can practically see some of you rolling your eyes, muttering, “Really?” or “Seriously?” Well, yes hold your horses!   Here’s the thing: I’ve spent over 40 years trying to get the knack of swimming, and let me tell you, it hasn’t exactly been a splashy success. I’m not scared of water, mind you, it’s…

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  • Real Talk for Men

Is Porn Making You Boring?

The Mesij6 months ago6 months ago18 mins

What Debbie Did (and Why It Mattered) Once upon a time, we had to work for our visual titillation. In my day, it was Debbie Does Dallas on a scratchy VHS, hidden in someone’s dad’s sock drawer. There was build-up, grainy quality, and a real sense of mystery. Fast forward to today, and porn is…

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  • Neurodivergent Living

Semantic Abuse – The Wordplay Weapon

The Mesij6 months ago6 months ago15 mins

What is Semantic Abuse? Semantic abuse is like verbal origami, someone folds your words until they resemble something you never said. It’s a subtle manipulation tactic where meanings are twisted, your statements are rephrased inaccurately, and conversations become a game of distorted definitions. Unlike shouting matches, this happens quietly, in plain English, which makes it…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Under Where? The Case of Skipping Knickers

The Mesij6 months ago6 months ago07 mins

Halle Berry turned heads at this year’s Met Gala, strutting in a gown so ethereal it practically whispered across the red carpet. She looked absolutely divine,  but not everything was left to the imagination. One detail (or lack thereof) caught public attention faster than a TikTok scandal: she wasn’t wearing any underwear. Yes, indeed. Not…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Designer Shoes & Beauty Standards Madness

The Mesij7 months ago6 months ago18 mins

Beauty Standards Across Empires: What We Inherited and Why It’s Bonkers Beauty standards have crossed oceans, toppled empires, and caused more women to curse in changing rooms than perhaps anything else in history. Somewhere along the way, from Cleopatra’s kohl eyeliner to today’s five-inch stilettos, we inherited a fair few expectations that are, frankly, bonkers….

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  • Relationships & Roles

Hospice Wives and Passport Boys

The Mesij7 months ago6 months ago08 mins

Well well well, the internet’s ablaze again, and this time it’s Shannon Sharpe lighting the match. Allegedly entangled with a Only Fans Model Gabriella Zuniga barely old enough to remember life before TikTok, the controversy has tongues wagging and fingers typing furiously across the socials. It’s not just about the age gap anymore, is it?…

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  • Work & Business

Great LinkedIn Lies And Hustle Highs

The Mesij7 months ago6 months ago17 mins

Let’s be honest, shall we? LinkedIn has turned into the office kitchen of the internet, a place where everyone stands around pretending they’re “just making a cup of tea” when really they’re showing off their new reusable mug that says “CEO of Mindset” while loudly quoting Simon Sinek like it’s gospel. You can’t scroll two…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Being Too Pretty To Be Taken Seriously

The Mesij7 months ago6 months ago08 mins

Exploring the Hidden Biases and Stereotypes That Haunt Beautiful Women in Society and the Workplace Let’s set the scene: you walk into a room, glowing, glammed, and God-given gorgeous, feeling pretty! Only to have your intelligence quietly dismissed like a forgotten side salad. Instead of being asked about your strategy, you’re asked about your skincare….

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Foundations & Reflections

Foundations & Reflections
The Cult of Celebrity Worship
Foundations & Reflections
Why can’t black people swim
Foundations & Reflections
Under Where? The Case of Skipping Knickers
Foundations & Reflections
Designer Shoes & Beauty Standards Madness

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  • Foundations & Reflections
  • Little Neuro Souls
  • Neurodivergent Living
  • Real Talk for Men
  • Relationships & Roles
  • Sex & Intimacy
  • Spiritual Sanity
  • Work & Business

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