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The Mesij

Real Talk for Neurodivergent Life

  • Brain Fog & Burnout
  • Foundations & Reflections
  • Neurodivergent Living
  • Relationships & Roles
    • Sex & Intimacy
  • Real Talk for Men
  • Spiritual Sanity
  • Work & Business

The Mesij Founder

Simone Wolda

My Story

The journey of The Mesij started around five years ago with a simple yet powerful idea. I’m a voracious reader and a passionate researcher who noticed a recurring theme among most blogs: they were all pretty much the same. The articles were predictable, the topics redundant, and there was a distinct lack of diversity in content. I wanted something different – a blog that wasn’t afraid to tackle the risqué, the unusual, and the downright intriguing. Thus, The Mesij was born (phonetically spelling out “message” for that extra flair). The mission was clear: to create a space where real-life stories could be told, practical advice could be given, and readers could find content that was both interesting and useful.

I write like I talk—with warmth, wit, and way too many tabs open in my head
I’m raising neurodivergent kids while unmasking decades of my own
I believe emotional honesty is a superpower, not a weakness
I don’t do toxic positivity or 5am miracle routines
I started The Mesij to help people who feel too weird for the world but too wise to stay small

Brain Fog & Burnout

Brain Fog & Burnout
Brain Fog Isn’t Laziness
Brain Fog & Burnout
The Truth About The Horror Of Making Bad Choices

Spiritual Sanity

Spiritual Sanity
Grandma’s Fortune Teller Was Onto Something
Spiritual Sanity
Tarot Isn’t the Devil’s Work nor Gospel
Spiritual Sanity
Are You A Physical Empath?
Spiritual Sanity
Chasing Money Vs. Attracting Money

Men

Real Talk for Men
The Conversation about Understanding Andropause
Real Talk for Men
Supplements Every Man Needs (But Likely Skipping)
Real Talk for Men
Is Porn Making You Boring?
Real Talk for Men
Postnatal Depression In Men
AI Inage A dishevelled woman in pyjamas on a laptop surrounded by notebooks—caption: “CEO, COO, Caffeine Dependent”
  • Work & Business

So You Want to Be an Entrepreneur? Hmm

The Mesij1 month ago2 weeks ago09 mins

People love to romanticise entrepreneurship like it’s a scented candle: light it up, breathe in the success, and boom, you’re rich, tanned, and sipping something expensive in Bali. Lovely image, but wildly inaccurate. Let me tell you the truth, from someone who’s been doing this dance for years—I’m talking about the cha-cha, the hustle, the…

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A Black man as a swimmer at the pool side with goggles on his head
  • Foundations & Reflections

Why can’t black people swim

The Mesij1 month ago1 week ago011 mins

Now, I can practically see some of you rolling your eyes, muttering, “Really?” or “Seriously?” Well, yes hold your horses!   Here’s the thing: I’ve spent over 40 years trying to get the knack of swimming, and let me tell you, it hasn’t exactly been a splashy success. I’m not scared of water, mind you, it’s…

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An AI Image of a split screen image. On the left is a man looking bored at his laptop on the right a man and woman in bed enjoying a happy moment
  • Real Talk for Men

Is Porn Making You Boring?

The Mesij1 month ago2 weeks ago18 mins

What Debbie Did (and Why It Mattered) Once upon a time, we had to work for our visual titillation. In my day, it was Debbie Does Dallas on a scratchy VHS, hidden in someone’s dad’s sock drawer. There was build-up, grainy quality, and a real sense of mystery. Fast forward to today, and porn is…

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A woman clearly distressed with speech bubbles around her saying You're overthinking it, You always twist things, You never said that
  • Neurodivergent Living

Semantic Abuse – The Wordplay Weapon

The Mesij1 month ago2 weeks ago15 mins

What is Semantic Abuse? Semantic abuse is like verbal origami, someone folds your words until they resemble something you never said. It’s a subtle manipulation tactic where meanings are twisted, your statements are rephrased inaccurately, and conversations become a game of distorted definitions. Unlike shouting matches, this happens quietly, in plain English, which makes it…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Under Where? The Case of Skipping Knickers

The Mesij1 month ago1 week ago07 mins

Halle Berry turned heads at this year’s Met Gala, strutting in a gown so ethereal it practically whispered across the red carpet. She looked absolutely divine,  but not everything was left to the imagination. One detail (or lack thereof) caught public attention faster than a TikTok scandal: she wasn’t wearing any underwear. Yes, indeed. Not…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Designer Shoes & Beauty Standards Madness

The Mesij1 month ago1 week ago18 mins

Beauty Standards Across Empires: What We Inherited and Why It’s Bonkers Beauty standards have crossed oceans, toppled empires, and caused more women to curse in changing rooms than perhaps anything else in history. Somewhere along the way, from Cleopatra’s kohl eyeliner to today’s five-inch stilettos, we inherited a fair few expectations that are, frankly, bonkers….

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AI Image of mid aged Black man and a Younger White Woman toasting a glass of red wine
  • Relationships & Roles

Hospice Wives and Passport Boys

The Mesij2 months ago2 weeks ago08 mins

Well well well, the internet’s ablaze again, and this time it’s Shannon Sharpe lighting the match. Allegedly entangled with a Only Fans Model Gabriella Zuniga barely old enough to remember life before TikTok, the controversy has tongues wagging and fingers typing furiously across the socials. It’s not just about the age gap anymore, is it?…

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  • Work & Business

Great LinkedIn Lies And Hustle Highs

The Mesij2 months ago2 weeks ago17 mins

Let’s be honest, shall we? LinkedIn has turned into the office kitchen of the internet, a place where everyone stands around pretending they’re “just making a cup of tea” when really they’re showing off their new reusable mug that says “CEO of Mindset” while loudly quoting Simon Sinek like it’s gospel. You can’t scroll two…

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  • Foundations & Reflections

Being Too Pretty To Be Taken Seriously

The Mesij2 months ago1 week ago08 mins

Exploring the Hidden Biases and Stereotypes That Haunt Beautiful Women in Society and the Workplace Let’s set the scene: you walk into a room, glowing, glammed, and God-given gorgeous, feeling pretty! Only to have your intelligence quietly dismissed like a forgotten side salad. Instead of being asked about your strategy, you’re asked about your skincare….

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  • Spiritual Sanity

Are You A Physical Empath?

The Mesij2 months ago2 weeks ago09 mins

Symptoms of a Physical Empath, How It Affects Mental Health, and a Quick Quiz to Find Out If You’re One You know that moment when your child says, “Mum, my head feels fuzzy,” and you’re mid-migraine? Or when your best friend suddenly gets moody and achy… just as you do during your cycle, not hers?…

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Foundations & Reflections

Foundations & Reflections
The Cult of Celebrity Worship
Foundations & Reflections
Why can’t black people swim
Foundations & Reflections
Under Where? The Case of Skipping Knickers
Foundations & Reflections
Designer Shoes & Beauty Standards Madness
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